by wildrose » Wed Oct 07, 2020 11:24 am
Authoritarian/Hedonistic is not an either/or relationship. Most people who do not have an adult perspective regarding sex are in what is called a guilt cycle where they vacillate between these two perspectives. They give into their desires and then they feel guilty for having done so. It's an addictive cycle which many religious people fall into. People who have an adult perspective on sex do not have issues with porn. It's people trapped in the guilt cycle who become "addicted" to porn and that's why almost all people who are "addicted" to porn are people with strong religious beliefs. They might not necessarily be regular church goers, but they prescribe to the dogmas of their faith and that limits their understanding of human sexuality. Some people become fixated in the authoritarian mindset for long periods of time and some people become fixated in the hedonistic mindset for long periods of time, but either mindset is unstable although fixation is possible. It should be understood that fixation in either mindset is an obstacle to intellectual, emotional, and spiritual growth.